For quite a while, I’ve been deciding whether or not I should post this review of the TV show: 13 Reasons Why.
Some of you may know that the opinions on the show have been pretty controversial, so here goes my personal opinion:
I agree the show has flaws since it doesn’t teach people how to help someone that has been experiencing depression and suicidal thoughts. And yes, the show does romanticize the suicide theme, however, that’s what most shows and movies do: Breaking Bad with the drug business, How To Get Away With Murder with crimes, Beauty and the Beast with Stockholm Syndrome, and so on.
Despite all of this, I actually enjoyed the show. I experienced bullying myself from the age of eight till the age of fourteen, and like Hannah, I felt lost, alone, and misunderstood. Also, just like Hannah, my bullies didn’t see what they were doing as mean and disrespectful, and some may even be reading me right now, and still not realize that what they did was hurtful. Unlike Hannah, I didn’t experience things as mean or belittling, because at a young age the jokes and cruelties were more childish. Thankfully, I always had great support from my mother, who knew everything that was happening, and who supported me and fought for me. Looking back, I know I have changed so much, and I also learned that tougher things in life exist, and somehow my strength was built from it.
With that being said, I am still against bullying, because, while some people might grow from it, others might be crushed from it. We are different people, and we react differently to situations, so people can’t expect that everyone will move on and brush it off. So, I think the importance of the show is to teach people how little things they do matter, and how a joke, a rumor, or name callings can be damaging to others.
The show also approaches a very sensitive and taboo subject: rape, which is extremely important to discuss, since a high number of women—being a teenager or an older woman—experiences it, and feels judged, dirty, and a victim marked by the tragedy. 13 Reasons Why shows the extent of the problem and really shocks its viewers with the violence that it is, so people will understand that it’s not a subject that can be ignored.
For people who want to see it, I suggest you do it carefully. For those in a healthy state of mind watching it can be a learning experience, but to those who are going through depression, the show might shock you in a way that won’t be helpful. If you are struggling with something, I encourage you to seek help. Even if only one person is by your side that’s all the strength you need. Also, you are stronger than you think, and you are not alone.